I believe in fostering true healing through humility, reciprocity, ethical filtering, systems-oriented perspectives and holistic integration.

I Believe…

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    I believe that true healing begins with humility—admitting we cannot fix everything or everyone, and letting go of what no longer serves us, whether it's unfulfilling work, toxic relationships, or the illusion of control in narcissistic dynamics.

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    I believe in the power of reciprocity and mutual recognition in all relationships; survivors of narcissistic abuse often arrive exhausted from one-sided giving, seeking confirmation that their experiences are valid and that mutuality is not just a fantasy but an achievable reality.

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    I believe that narcissistic abuse, especially in family systems, creates profound confusion and self-doubt—gaslighting leads to internalized blame, where you've overthought every interaction, believing the distortions while a stronger inner voice whispers that something is off.

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    I believe in honoring the wound as a doorway to purpose; my own journey through enmeshment with an emotionally immature parent, scapegoating, and eventual no-contact taught me the strength in truth-seeking, and I guide clients to transform similar traumas into resilient selfhood without vengeance or war.

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    I believe that ethics in therapy demands rigorous filtering—ensuring a good fit means starting with deal-breakers, like declining to work with those exhibiting narcissistic traits, as meaningful growth requires curiosity, introspection, and a genuine commitment to change.

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    I believe survivors often feel alone, chasing phantoms of approval that were never real; you've invested time in illusions, blaming yourself for failed reasoning with family or ex-partners, but deep down, you know you're not deluded—you just need reassurance and tools to reclaim your reality testing.

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    I believe in a systems perspective on the person in their environment; whether addressing family dynamics through Bowen theory or romantic entanglements with parts work (IFS), I focus on the whole context, helping clients navigate triangles, alliances, and double binds with calm differentiation.

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    I believe that couples therapy thrives when partners are committed to integrity, truth, and beauty—sensible, dignified individuals who are conscientious yet open-minded, working on communication, building bridges, and fostering romance through frameworks like Gottman theory, while addressing underlying conflicts with emotional awareness and mutual turning toward one another.

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    I believe in the transformative power of active listening and Socratic inquiry, drawing from existential therapy and stoicism to explore questions of meaning and depth, enabling clients to integrate shadow aspects, childhood conditioning, and subconscious patterns into a cohesive self through observation and insight.

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    I believe that personal development occurs across stages, informed by integral models such as Ken Wilber's four quadrants and Robert Kegan's subject-object framework, allowing clients to evolve their worldview, honor their values, and achieve higher levels of consciousness and differentiation.

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    I believe in a holistic, body-inclusive approach to healing, recognizing that trauma resides in the physical form; thus, I encourage practices like journaling, reflection, exercise, proper diet, sleep, and sunlight to regulate energy, build habits inspired by thinkers like James Clear and Cal Newport, and support steady, sustainable progress.

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    I believe in the interior world's profound influence on well-being, embracing non-dual awareness, Jungian depth psychology—including persona, ego, anima/animus, and shadow work—and spiritual dimensions without imposition, while respecting clients' theory of mind and fostering a sacred space for emergence and realization.

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    I believe that authenticity as a therapist stems from my ongoing commitment to self-development—through continuous learning, introspection, consultations, and embodying the change I facilitate—drawing from 14 years of experience in child welfare and therapy to provide wise, insightful guidance rooted in empathy and professional boundaries.

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    I believe that trust in therapy builds from shared seeking and mutual vulnerability; as a fellow traveler who has navigated personal wounds into purpose, I specialize in deprogramming from toxic family or romantic dynamics using evidence-based tools, offering clarity, validation, and structured pathways to calm confidence, because true progress demands proactive partnership and radical acceptance.