Are You a Scapegoat of a Narcissistic or Emotionally Immature Family?
You carry chronic self-doubt, people-pleasing, and a sense of guilt—even though you know you're not the problem. Years of gaslighting and blame have made you question your own reality. You've tried therapy before, but it didn't address the family system. You're here because you need someone who gets it—who understands scapegoating, family triangles, and the long shadow of parentification.
Blake Anderson, MSW, RSW has +14 years specializing in narcissistic family trauma & scapegoat recovery. 700+ clients served | 8 years in child welfare | Featured expert (6.7K+ YouTube subscribers learning these tools).
He integrates four evidence-based frameworks to address what generic therapy misses:
Map the invisible rules your family programmed into you (Bowen Family Systems)
Heal the younger parts of you that still carry the shame (Internal Family Systems)
Find meaning in what you survived and turn it into purpose (Jungian Depth Work)
See your story from every angle — personal, relational, cultural, systemic (Integral Theory)
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You stop second-guessing every decision. The shame that used to hit you in the chest when you said no?
It loosens. You start to trust your own judgment again — not because someone gave you permission,
but because you finally stopped needing it.
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You stop rehearsing arguments in the shower. Family dinners don’t trigger a three-day emotional
hangover. You can be in a room with difficult people and stay grounded in who you are — without
performing, appeasing, or disappearing.
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You wake up knowing your life isn’t organized around someone else’s dysfunction. You have a clear
sense of what matters to you — not what you were told should matter. The constant hum of anxiety
quiets, and something steadier takes its place.
Not ready to talk yet? Start here.
Take the free 60-Question Family Origins Assessment and find out where you fall on three dimensions of family dysfunction: Internal Experience, Narcissistic Parent Behavior, and Family
System Impact. Plus get the 40pg Healing & Growth Toolkit with 15 clinical worksheets.
“I believe that the person who was called ‘the problem’ is usually the one who saw the problem most clearly.”
“I believe that walking away from a toxic family system isn’t abandonment — it’s the beginning of self-respect.”
“I believe your loyalty was exploited, not rewarded. And you deserve a relationship with yourself that doesn’t depend on their approval.”
See If My Approach Resonates
Over 6,700+ Subscribers are learning to see their family system clearly. Watch one of my most popular videos and decide if this is the support you’ve been looking for.
Imagine moving from survival mode to calm confidence
Navigating relationships with clear boundaries and authentic reciprocity. My Calm Differentiation Framework, informed by Bowen theory and stoicism, targets root causes like gaslighting and verbal abuse, fostering emotional regulation and purpose-driven growth. Start with a free 15-minute consult to discuss your goals; book via calendar.
Getting Started with Blake
In Toronto (GTA)?
My Location
50 Carroll St
Toronto, ON M4M 3G3
Hours
Monday–Friday
10am–8pm
Saturday
10am–2pm
In-Person Leslieville Toronto Location
Outside Ontario? I Work With Clients Worldwide.
For clients in the US, UK, Europe, and beyond, I offer Dysfunctional Family Strategy & Coaching — a rigorous, goal-oriented partnership focused on understanding narcissistic family mechanics, building boundary scripts, and creating your personal manifesto.
This isn’t clinical psychotherapy. It’s a structured coaching relationship with a therapist who has 14 years of clinical depth behind every conversation.
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We start with your story. I’ll ask about your family system, what brought you here, and what you’re hoping changes. Most clients say they felt more understood in 50 minutes than in years of previous therapy.
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Never. That’s your call. I’ll help you see the situation clearly enough that whatever you decide is grounded in self-awareness, not guilt or fear.
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Good. That usually means we’re getting somewhere real. Your emotions are welcome here, not managed.
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It varies—some see shifts in weeks (boundary tools, emotional regulation), others months for deeper trauma work. Sessions build progressively: from understanding Island A (insecurity, flashbacks) to Island B (confidence, purpose). Sessions are an investment in your development—often covered by insurance. Think of it as upgrading from reactive surviving to intentional thriving, with free course access (if six (6) session commitment) for extra traction.
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No—I can't diagnose anyone I'm not treating, and labels aren't the goal anyway. We focus on your experience: patterns like gaslighting, splitting, or scapegoating that impact you. Using hermeneutics (interpreting your narrative) and family systems, we'll clarify dynamics without judgment, empowering you to decide next steps. If needed, we integrate CBT for reframing and IFS for unburdening parts.
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Yes. Ontario residents receive regulated psychotherapy. Worldwide, I offer Dysfunctional Family Strategy & Coaching — same depth, same tools, structured coaching partnership.
Ready to be heard by someone who actually gets it?
Fees & Payment:
Credit, debit, or e-transfer due each visit; limited sliding-scale spots.
Insurance & Receipts
I don’t direct-bill, but you’ll receive an emailed receipt within 48 hours. Sessions with a Registered Social Worker (RSW) qualify for many extended-health plans and for the CRA medical expense credit—check your provider for details.
Cancellation Policy
Life happens—please give 48 hours’ notice to avoid the full-fee charge. When possible, we’ll reschedule within the week.
HOW WE CAN WORK TOGETHER
1. Psychotherapy (Ontario Residents Only) For clients physically located in Ontario. As a Registered Social Worker (MSW, RSW), I provide clinical psychotherapy covered by many insurance plans. We dive deep into diagnosis, treatment plans, and processing complex trauma within the regulations of the OCSWSSW.
2. Therapeutic Coaching & Strategy (International / USA / Europe) For clients worldwide. For those outside Ontario, I offer Dysfunctional Family Strategy & Coaching. While this is not clinical psychotherapy or medical treatment, it is a rigorous, goal-oriented partnership. We focus on:
- Education: Understanding the mechanics of the Narcissistic Family System.
- Strategy: Developing scripts for setting boundaries and "Calm Differentiation."
- Future-Focus: Building your "Personal Manifesto" and breaking the cycle. (Note: Coaching fees are not reimbursable by insurance).
