In this post and video I unpack the three frameworks I rely on most—Bowen Family Therapy, the Gottman Method, and Internal Family Systems—to show how differentiation, core emotions, and “inner parts” shape every family interaction. You’ll learn why couples get stuck in gridlock (think Gottman’s Four Horsemen), how to view narcissistic traits as an explanation rather than a label, and the role of radical acceptance and firm boundaries in protecting your peace. If you’re ready to deepen the work, an online course link is included for step-by-step tools and exercises.